When you set boundaries, there are 4 types of people:
1. Those who respect them right away. They value you.
2. Those who test them at first… but rapidly adjust. They learn.
3. Those who keep pushing. They blame you, act defensive or passive-aggressive. They adapt, perhaps out of fear of losing you—but keep testing.
With this last group, you need to look deeper:
—Are they truly emotionally available?
—Do they really want to grow?
—Do they meet your standards for a healthy, authentic relationship?
4. And then, there are the ones who simply disappear. No words. Just absence.
YOUR NEEDS MATTER.
Not only the basic ones.
But also your need to grow. To thrive.
Spiritually & Humanly.
You deserve a relationship that honors who you are—
not just what you do.
It takes practice, because it means unlearning years of conditioning.
It hurts because you’ll have to let go of people you love.
But that’s when you stop settling for crumbs.
That’s when you stop chasing those who can’t see your worth.
Boundaries and Standards are NOT the same… but that’s for another writing.
Who are you still keeping in your life even though they only give you crumbs?