Musings on conscious relationships.
Take what resonates. Let go of the rest.
I share what I’ve seen and experienced in my relationships: family, friendships, professional, and romantic.
In my romantic relationships, I found my deepest distortions.
There, my greatest opportunity for deconditioning.
These experiences were alchemy for breaking through illusions and starting releasing patterns. A continuous refinement.
Love and relationship are not the same thing
For years they were entangled.
I believed love had to be reciprocated to be real.
That someone else had what I was looking for.
Love is impersonal.
Infinite. It expects nothing.
It’s who I am.
Relationship is a human structure.
An agreement that requires reciprocity.
Seeing this woke me from begging for love.
I am the source.
Marriage or romantic relationships are forever
Let go of the “forever” fantasy.
Relationships have cycles and purposes.
Some can last a lifetime, yes,
but only if both people choose each other
from the present Truth,
not from inertia.
With honesty, you no longer hold on to relationships
that you’ve outgrown or that don’t work.
Relationships as a way to complete oneself
I believed someone had to complete me.
That I had to earn love.
I edited myself. I made myself small.
I didn’t want to inconvenience anyone.
I didn’t want to be too much or too intense.
From there: complacency, codependency, self-abandonment.
Until I remembered my worth.
And I understood: I lack nothing.
I am whole, not perfect.
My happiness doesn’t depend on a relationship.
Shared communion is not fantasy:
it is expansion between conscious beings.
Growing together, without losing each other.
Unconditional love is not dormant
Loving doesn’t justify what hurts.
It doesn’t sustain what it doesn’t honor.
Out of compassion, I made excuses:
“He’s going through a bad time.”
“He has supported me a lot.”
“He said it out of fear.”
“It’s not spiritual that I…”
But the heart knows when something no longer feels right.
Unconditional love is inclusive.
Embodied wisdom is selective.
When you value yourself, you don’t conform.
You choose from your standard.
Love without wisdom becomes passive pacification.
A conscious relationship isn’t just functional:
it’s vibrant. It challenges you. It expands you.
It doesn’t turn you off. It’s not symmetry.
It’s synergistic frequency.
Staying for the other’s potential
My first relationship lasted five years.
I was afraid of losing him. I didn’t value myself.
My world expanded.
But I saw so much potential in him.
He wanted to stay comfortable.
And I was still holding onto something that had already died.
Potential doesn’t replace Presence.
In a moment of radical honesty, I said to myself:
“I don’t want this anymore.”
I am not his mother/father. I am not his savior.
Love does not require the other to change.
But I can choose not to stay
where there is no openness, coherence, or honor.
To love is also to know when to leave.
Who am I to want something more?
I normalized emotional and psychological abuse.
I didn’t choose. I expected to be chosen.
I distrusted my feelings.
Even my direct experience.
I was abused. I recognized it years later.
I overlooked red flags.
When abuse is familiar, you don’t see it.
Until your consciousness expands,
or you experience something new by contrast,
you can no longer tolerate what you previously allowed.
Then you open yourself up to more.
What you imagine and feel in your body isn’t fantasy.
It’s potential.
I don’t shrink to fit in.
My standards have been raised because it’s natural to thrive.
Your significant other is not your world
I put him at the center.
I put myself in second place.
Only he shone.
I was holding him. That was my role.
Until life showed me another option:
Putting myself first.
I started a new business.
I entered spaces that expanded me.
I met new people.
I challenged myself. I invested in myself.
I fell in love with myself.
The woman appeared.
No longer just a partner.
Before being a wife, I am a woman.
Before being a woman, I am Life.
Now, my center is Truth.
Everything evolves. Relationships too.
Today my connections are freer, more real.
I attract more aligned beings,
not only do they reflect what I haven’t seen…but also my frequency.
My new standard:
Walking with those who honor my presence.
Those who aren’t afraid to transform with me.
Naked hearts, unafraid to expand.
Dancing and enjoy Life.
After awakening, peace is not the destination.
And from there, co-creation is born.
You no longer survive. You thrive.
From there, you choose and you create new paths.
Your relationships don’t have to look like mine.
You can create new structures that are more authentic to you.
Where do you already know there’s something more available to you… and you just need to dare to choose it?
