If you hide your light to avoid being rejected,
if you avoid conflict out of fear of abandonment,
if vulnerability feels dangerous,
that is not connection:
it is survival.
And when, in the relationship, you have to be the guide, the therapist, the emotional mother or father,
that dynamic no longer feels like a relationship between peers.
When one individual is willing to grow Consciously
but that willingness is not shared,
the dynamic becomes asymmetrical.
Not because of a lack of Love,
but because one begins to carry
what the other cannot hold.
Emotional exhaustion appears.
Stagnation.
The feeling of holding something
so it doesn’t fall apart—
the same discussions repeating in a loop.
Continuity without aliveness.
Stability without fire.
Relational intimacy can emerge between peers:
— not because they are the same,
but because both are Present, available, and Self-aware.
meeting from coherence,
not from roles
nor from the need to fill inner voids.
Seeing the essence of the other
is the foundation of a more mature relationship.
But it is not the reason you continue choosing someone.
The choice comes from the kind of relationship
you are willing to explore and experience.
In raw terms:
the Expression of Love you feel capable of receiving today.
It takes two for a relationship to exist.
Not only an impersonal intimate encounter—
the kind that can happen with anyone—
but a relationship rooted in mutual Presence,
one both can feel and recognize.
Because radical Honesty is required
to recognize when you are staying out of fear—
fear of loss,
of loneliness,
of starting over,
of losing familiar comfort.
And also to recognize
when you stay because Love and Truth are genuinely shared.
PS:
This is not about perfection,
it’s about mutual commitment to Truth and growth.
Relational intimacy does not arise when one person sees for both.
You cannot build a mature relationship on your own.
When “enlightenment” stops being the end of the path
and becomes a natural part of evolution,
the way you relate also transforms.
Then the relationship is not only a mirror of wounds,
but also a space of expansion,
Celebration, Play, and Conscious Co-creation.
*This isn’t advice, It’s an invitation —take what resonates.
