There comes a time in your life
when you love yourself so much
that you no longer identify with the role of savior or self-sacrificing mother, or with the one who emotionally supports everyone while doing everything alone.
You get bored with the drama.
You stop feeding the familiar patterns of chaos
that kept your nervous system on constant alert.
You realize: you are the one who breaks the cycle, for you.
It’s not rejection, it’s clarity.
You value yourself to the point of leaving environments
that were normal for years,
but today you know that your role is not sacrifice, abandonment,
or spiritual perfectionism.
No one will give you a medal for remaining in abusive environments—and call it spiritual endurance,
even if they aren’t extreme, like
physical or sexual violence or addiction—
if this, please ask for help.
But there are more subtle forms of abuse:
emotional, psychological; invisible wounds.
Traditional spirituality speaks of unconditional love,
but often denies personal development.
There remains a gap between what we transcend
and what we need to consciously integrate to evolve.
We all have conditioning.
They are neither good nor bad.
Some were used to survive,
but you don’t need these anymore.
It’s not about eliminating them or killing the ego,
but about being aware and choosing differently:
acting from alignment and coherence.
All start with and within us. This is how paradigms are broken. Creating something new.
This is how you honor your ancestors.
What drama (or breadcrumbs) looks like:
- When you are the emotional punching bag of your partner, parents, friends or boss.
- When they give you the silent treatment as punishment, as a way of manipulation.
- When they only reach you to solve their life problems or need something from you.
- When there are constant emotional highs and lows. Friction that wears you down.
- When you walk on eggshells or you hide parts of yourself for fear of their reaction.
- When difficult conversations end in victimhood or walls.
- When they humiliate you, name-calling or invalidate your feelings.
- When you can’t be the one who needs containment.
- When they cross your boundaries or manipulate you with guilt, money, or threats.
- When they use your vulnerability against you.
- When after an argument there is no self-reflection or reparation.
- They don’t want to grow, do the inner work… go to therapy, or ask for help.
You can understand everything, radically accept it,
and continue there.
and look at where you yourself continue to play the role of victim, perpetrator, or hero.
with yourself or with others.
Recognize it. Accept it without judgment.
And if you feel it, choose differently.
Stop playing the trauma bond game.
Drama needs two players.
You are not a tree; you can move.
You didn’t come to endure.
Don’t confuse devotion with blind loyalty to the familiar.
Be honest with your present Truth.
Sometimes it’s silence,
sometimes something is said,
and other times, you just walk away.
You deserve relationships that feel safe.
You are doing the work of integration.
You don’t need perfection, just love yourself more.
We accept the love we think we deserve.”
— Stephen Chbosky
Unsubscribe from the drama is choosing fertile ground for your growth, an environment where the relationship reflects the Love you embody and the maturity of your Consciousness.
Let’s stop tolerating cultural customs
that dehumanize us,
that perpetuate dysfunction disguised as connection.
When you choose yourself,
when you stop being afraid of being yourself
and being rejected or abandoned,
when you express your Truth even if your voice trembles,
when you set boundaries, embodied your standards,
when it seems like everything is falling apart and you decide not to lie to yourself, the reality of the relationship transforms, or there is a conscious break-up.
The outcome doesn’t matter;
what matters is that you came back to yourself.
You become the one who break the cycle of self-abandonment.
*This isn’t advice —it’s a mirror. Take what resonates. Remember you don’t need doing all by yourself.