The most common mistake when we begin setting boundaries— especially when People-Pleasing has been a protection mechanism—is believing that a boundary means telling someone else how they should behave. Children are taught boundaries. But between adults, a boundary is not a rule.It is a recognition of Self-Sovereignty. A real boundary is not about what the… Continue reading A Boundary is Coherence
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From Relational Survival to Shared Presence
If you hide your light to avoid being rejected,if you avoid conflict out of fear of abandonment,if vulnerability feels dangerous,that is not connection:it is survival. And when, in the relationship, you have to be the guide, the therapist, the emotional mother or father,that dynamic no longer feels like a relationship between peers. When one individual… Continue reading From Relational Survival to Shared Presence
Unsubscribe from the drama in relationships
There comes a time in your lifewhen you love yourself so muchthat you no longer identify with the role of savior or self-sacrificing mother, or with the one who emotionally supports everyone while doing everything alone. You get bored with the drama.You stop feeding the familiar patterns of chaosthat kept your nervous system on constant… Continue reading Unsubscribe from the drama in relationships
When the wound is transmuted into a standard
Musings on conscious relationships. Take what resonates. Let go of the rest. I share what I’ve seen and experienced in my relationships: family, friendships, professional, and romantic.In my romantic relationships, I found my deepest distortions.There, my greatest opportunity for deconditioning. These experiences were alchemy for breaking through illusions and starting releasing patterns. A continuous refinement.… Continue reading When the wound is transmuted into a standard