It’s the part that carries the weight—from childhood into adulthood—the feeling that he must do it all alone. He grew up in an environment without emotional safety,with control, silence, or manipulation. The child learned to read his parents’ needs,to care, to hold,to become useful, to feel safe. Maybe there was a separation,an illness,constant conflict or… Continue reading The Myth of Doing It Alone
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Unsubscribe from the drama in relationships
There comes a time in your lifewhen you love yourself so muchthat you no longer identify with the role of savior or self-sacrificing mother, or with the one who emotionally supports everyone while doing everything alone. You get bored with the drama.You stop feeding the familiar patterns of chaosthat kept your nervous system on constant… Continue reading Unsubscribe from the drama in relationships
Your boundaries are non-negotiable
When you set boundaries, there are 4 types of people: 1. Those who respect them right away. They value you.2. Those who test them at first… but rapidly adjust. They learn.3. Those who keep pushing. They blame you, act defensive or passive-aggressive. They adapt, perhaps out of fear of losing you—but keep testing. With this last group, you… Continue reading Your boundaries are non-negotiable