People-pleasing is born from the fear of disconnection.I mistake connection for validation. When I fear losing someone, I lose myself.When I believe the connection depends on me, I abandon myself.When I confuse love with approval, I shrink. Dismantling people-pleasing is simple:I say yes when it’s a yes.I say no when it’s a no.My body remembers… Continue reading When I release the ties of people-pleasing, my Authenticity is set free
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Unsubscribe from the drama in relationships
There comes a time in your lifewhen you love yourself so muchthat you no longer identify with the role of savior or self-sacrificing mother, or with the one who emotionally supports everyone while doing everything alone. You get bored with the drama.You stop feeding the familiar patterns of chaosthat kept your nervous system on constant… Continue reading Unsubscribe from the drama in relationships
When the wound is transmuted into a standard
Musings on conscious relationships. Take what resonates. Let go of the rest. I share what I’ve seen and experienced in my relationships: family, friendships, professional, and romantic.In my romantic relationships, I found my deepest distortions.There, my greatest opportunity for deconditioning. These experiences were alchemy for breaking through illusions and starting releasing patterns. A continuous refinement.… Continue reading When the wound is transmuted into a standard