Years ago, when I said no more emotional manipulation,that was the moment I was more afraid of losing myselfthan of losing my family. Over time, they stopped. Not because they understood at first,but because I no longer responded to the old pattern. They didn’t change.I did. I saw the pattern in myself and I stopped… Continue reading Anger is Sacred
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A Boundary is Coherence
The most common mistake when we begin setting boundaries— especially when People-Pleasing has been a protection mechanism—is believing that a boundary means telling someone else how they should behave. Children are taught boundaries. But between adults, a boundary is not a rule.It is a recognition of Self-Sovereignty. A real boundary is not about what the… Continue reading A Boundary is Coherence
Your boundaries are non-negotiable
When you set boundaries, there are 4 types of people: 1. Those who respect them right away. They value you.2. Those who test them at first… but rapidly adjust. They learn.3. Those who keep pushing. They blame you, act defensive or passive-aggressive. They adapt, perhaps out of fear of losing you—but keep testing. With this last group, you… Continue reading Your boundaries are non-negotiable