People-pleasing is born from the fear of disconnection.I mistake connection for validation. When I fear losing someone, I lose myself.When I believe the connection depends on me, I abandon myself.When I confuse love with approval, I shrink. Dismantling people-pleasing is simple:I say yes when it’s a yes.I say no when it’s a no.My body remembers… Continue reading When I release the ties of people-pleasing, my Authenticity is set free
Tag: emotional maturity
The Myth of Doing It Alone
It’s the part that carries the weight—from childhood into adulthood—the feeling that he must do it all alone. He grew up in an environment without emotional safety,with control, silence, or manipulation. The child learned to read his parents’ needs,to care, to hold,to become useful, to feel safe. Maybe there was a separation,an illness,constant conflict or… Continue reading The Myth of Doing It Alone
The Non-duality of Impersonal Love and Human Love
Ultimate intimacy is with you.When you realizethat only you are in the room. You are the Love you were seeking. And then the question arises:How do you integrate this into your relationships? Impersonal Love → I free you from being my source of love.Love without conditions.Love that doesn’t need to save or possess. It takes… Continue reading The Non-duality of Impersonal Love and Human Love
Unsubscribe from the drama in relationships
There comes a time in your lifewhen you love yourself so muchthat you no longer identify with the role of savior or self-sacrificing mother, or with the one who emotionally supports everyone while doing everything alone. You get bored with the drama.You stop feeding the familiar patterns of chaosthat kept your nervous system on constant… Continue reading Unsubscribe from the drama in relationships
Your boundaries are non-negotiable
When you set boundaries, there are 4 types of people: 1. Those who respect them right away. They value you.2. Those who test them at first… but rapidly adjust. They learn.3. Those who keep pushing. They blame you, act defensive or passive-aggressive. They adapt, perhaps out of fear of losing you—but keep testing. With this last group, you… Continue reading Your boundaries are non-negotiable